The 7th ingredient in Henry Drummond’s “Spectrum of Love” is good temper.
Have you ever been around someone with a bad temper? It can be stressful and difficult because you never know what is going to set them off. You have to keep your guard up because you are not sure how they are going to react at any time. There is a lack of trust and a tension that easily hurts rather than helps a situation or a relationship.
I want to be the kind of person that people can depend on, a person who is steady and reasonable in different situations. I want to be helpful rather than hurtful. This doesn’t mean that I don’t have emotions and express how I feel about situations and events, it just means that I have control and try to channel it in a positive way without hurting or threatening those close to me, including myself.
When it comes to people losing their temper I tend to think of examples in golf and tennis. You see people breaking their tennis rackets, throwing golf clubs and generally having fits. Maybe it is because these are supposed to be calm and serene types of sports that the temper tantrums tend to stand out. John McEnroe (photo above) was good at throwing fits. Remember his line to the umpire, “You cannot be serious!” Even today McEnroe is very emotional and frequently throws mini tantrums over a line call or a missed shot. I have to admit that it is entertaining but I don’t think I want to live my life like that.
Maybe you can relate to some of these areas where my temper is tested . . .
- Another driver is inconsiderate.
- My list of things to do is bigger than the time I have.
- Expectations with another person are different and conflicting.
So what are my heart-check statements concerning good temper? I’m working to make these true for me . . .
- I am consistently calm, steady, and positive.
- Even when I am upset, I’m still considerate toward others.
Let’s pray about keeping a good temper,
Lord, I know that losing my temper and spouting off tends to make me look selfish and reckless rather than building trust and understanding with others. Help me to learn to confront people and express my opinions in positive ways to build caring and respect. Thank you for your guidance and presence in these situations as you help me keep my temper in check.
I’m thankful for the opportunity to share this series with you. It has been very meaningful for me and I hope it has also been meaningful for you. We have just a couple more to go in the series and my hope is that it will generate some discussion. Please leave a comment below, I would especially like to know about a time when you had good results by staying calm.